It’s easy to cuss and grunt and build a fire. Cavemen did all that. Despite popular belief, doing these things doesn’t make us men. My co-author, Jason, and I think it’s time to redefine manhood or, better yet, reset it.
So, we’ve done what John the Beloved said we shouldn’t do: we’ve added a chapter to the Bible.
We don’t think John would mind, though. In fact, we think John would approve of this exercise—using holy Writ as our template to write down a major reminder of what a man should be.
If a Proverbs 32 man existed, we think he would look this:
A Proverbs 32 Man
A good man is hard to find. His wife trusts him without reserve and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, he showers blessings all life long.
He enjoys his work, pursuing a meaningful vocational existence, and seeks God’s purpose.
He doesn’t waste time on temporal pleasures such as Modern Warfare or Breaking Bad. Instead, he gets his lazy backside up and studies the Word and prays for his family before he organizes his day.
He doesn’t squander his money on frivolous things like gambling or stupid gadgets. Rather, he invests in things that last: his children’s education, something beautiful for his wife, and a thoughtful retirement plan.
He senses the worth of his work but knows when it’s time to go home and see his family.
He doesn’t slough off home repairs and at least tries to fix the garbage disposal; he mows his own yard, modeling what it means to find the joy in agency.
He’s quick to assist anyone in need and reaches out to help the poor.
He doesn’t worry about his family when it snows. He’s prepared—he’s done his due diligence.
He’s greatly respected when he deliberates with community leaders.
He’s not afraid to get his hands dirty. He tries to change his brake pads and enjoys whittling wood.
He looks sharp and dresses appropriately for the occasion without relinquishing who he is at his core.
When he speaks he does so with language that uplifts. He doesn’t use coarse talk because he thinks it’s cool. He employs discernment and always speaks with kindness.
He’s the head of his household but rules with deft discernment—understanding the value that Christ rules it all and the importance of what it means for his wife to be co-equal.
His children respect and bless him; his wife joins in with words of praise: “Many men have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!”
He handles influence, which can mislead, and understands that power soon fades.
The man to be admired and praised is the man who lives in the fear of God.
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Timothy Willard is the author of five books, including Longing For More: Daily Reflections on Finding God in the Rhythms of Life and the forthcoming The Life-Giving Adventure of Chasing Beauty (Eerdmans, 2019). He has collaborated on over 20 books and has written, consulted and served as spiritual director for organizations such as Chick-fil-A, Catalyst, Q Ideas and Praxis Labs. When he’s not riding the trails in the Appalachian mountains you can find him by the fire with his three daughters and his wife making up stories about Tom the back yard badger. He lives somewhere in the south Charlotte woods.