No More Wannabe Playboys

A hundred years ago, fatherlessness was a result of paternal death. Today, men are not physically dying as much as they’re choosing to live socially dead. When you consider a child born outside marriage spends only six months of his entire childhood living with his father, it’s not so farfetched to view manhood through an Ashton Kutcher-esque lens.

“He just came up and kissed me,” twenty-two-year-old Sara Leal told US Weekly. “He lost his towel and I took my robe off.”

The article chronicles the now famous one-night stand that contributed to the ruin of a marriage and the tabloid stardom of a young woman. It also profiles a man who has now become a role model for all twenty- and thirty-something wannabe playboys: Ashton Kutcher.

For most men, this real-life scenario happens only in the movies. A film like The Hangover propagates the Hollywood gospel that says manhood equals debauchery, laziness, and irresponsibility. If you believe what you see on the big screen, and in Mr. Kutcher’s hot tub, manhood looks like being a slightly better dressed teenager.


Tim's authored four books, including the children's book Shine So Bright and the critically acclaimed Veneer: Living Deeply in a Surface Society. He studied beauty in the works of C.S. Lewis for his PhD under Alister McGrath. When he's not scratching poetry, or chasing the scholar's craft, you can find him carving up the trails of the nearest national forest on his Salsa El Mariachi 29er.

He lives in Charlotte, North Carolina with his wife and three pixie-daughters, and two acres of Great Horned Owls.