No More Wannabe Playboys

A hundred years ago, fatherlessness was a result of paternal death. Today, men are not physically dying as much as they’re choosing to live socially dead. When you consider a child born outside marriage spends only six months of his entire childhood living with his father, it’s not so farfetched to view manhood through an Ashton Kutcher-esque lens.

“He just came up and kissed me,” twenty-two-year-old Sara Leal told US Weekly. “He lost his towel and I took my robe off.”

The article chronicles the now famous one-night stand that contributed to the ruin of a marriage and the tabloid stardom of a young woman. It also profiles a man who has now become a role model for all twenty- and thirty-something wannabe playboys: Ashton Kutcher.

For most men, this real-life scenario happens only in the movies. A film like The Hangover propagates the Hollywood gospel that says manhood equals debauchery, laziness, and irresponsibility. If you believe what you see on the big screen, and in Mr. Kutcher’s hot tub, manhood looks like being a slightly better dressed teenager.


Timothy Willard loves to sit with his wife by the bonfire and make up stories about Tom the Backyard-Badger for his three lovely daughters. When he's not carving up the Appalachian Mountains on his Salsa El Mariachi, you can find him busy writing a book, collaborating on a book, or reading a book written by someone dead and gone. Timothy studied beauty in the works of C.S. Lewis under theologian Alister McGrath. The author of five books, including Veneer: Living Deeply in a Surface Society (Zondervan), Timothy is currently finishing The Life-Changing Adventure of Chasing Beauty (Eerdmans, 2019), preparing his doctoral thesis for publication, and trying to find a publisher for his first novel The Tempest and the Bloom. He lives somewhere in the south Charlotte woods.