"I don’t encourage you to take Saturday’s off because I want something back. I’m not offering you that time so that I can take an equal amount. There are no strings attached," I said. "I just love you."  The air hung tense and awkward. Arguments seem to produce that kind of air. My wife and I wrangled on and on about something we couldn’t quite put our collective finger on. There were all kinds of miscommunication swirling around. Sometimes arguments take on a life of their own and, when passions rise, we forget the reason for the argument.  So, I had to back up and clear the air. When I did, and spoke those words, “There are no strings attached,” the epiphany alighted upon my slow mind. Yeah, I actually do this for you not expecting anything in return. It was good to hear myself say that, and it was true.  But there are plenty of times I do something to show my love to her all the while expecting reciprocation. Is that what love does? It expects? I don’t think so. READ MORE

"I don’t encourage you to take Saturday’s off because I want something back. I’m not offering you that time so that I can take an equal amount. There are no strings attached," I said. "I just love you." 

The air hung tense and awkward. Arguments seem to produce that kind of air. My wife and I wrangled on and on about something we couldn’t quite put our collective finger on. There were all kinds of miscommunication swirling around. Sometimes arguments take on a life of their own and, when passions rise, we forget the reason for the argument. 

So, I had to back up and clear the air. When I did, and spoke those words, “There are no strings attached,” the epiphany alighted upon my slow mind. Yeah, I actually do this for you not expecting anything in return. It was good to hear myself say that, and it was true. 

But there are plenty of times I do something to show my love to her all the while expecting reciprocation. Is that what love does? It expects? I don’t think so.

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Tim's authored four books, including the children's book Shine So Bright and the critically acclaimed Veneer: Living Deeply in a Surface Society. He studied beauty in the works of C.S. Lewis for his PhD under Alister McGrath. When he's not scratching poetry, or chasing the scholar's craft, you can find him carving up the trails of the nearest national forest on his Salsa El Mariachi 29er.

He lives in Charlotte, North Carolina with his wife and three pixie-daughters, and two acres of Great Horned Owls.